I went to a club in New York City last weekend for a party with a bunch of my lady friends. While dancing on the club floor with my girls, a guy came up behind me and stuck his hand up my dress. I turned around and gave him a really dirty look, but felt really invaded and upset by this. In the past, I always felt that this kind of behavior was par for the course when you went out clubbing. After going to the HollaBack DC Blog launch party, though, I learned how other women dealt with this kind of harassment, and also learned it’s ok to speak up and say something.
I decided to that this kind of behavior is unacceptable and went to the bouncer to let him know that there was someone in his club harassing women. The bouncer went to him and tried to kick him out, but his group of male friends came to his rescue vouching for him claiming he would never do that kind of thing. His friend also came up to me, and said that his friend didn’t do it, essentially calling me a liar. The bouncer said the same thing to me, and gave me a “free drink ticket”, I guess to appease me, but letting me know if the guy did it again, he was out of the club. While the guys in his group avoided me and my friends for the rest of the night, I’m glad I spoke up. Sure, the lack of response was annoying, but I also know that I’m sending a message to guys like him. You can’t get away with that behavior, and if more women stand up to guys like that in the clubs, this behavior should hopefully go away.
submitted by Anonymous
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