we made it big time. a few of you have said that when anti-women, pro-male blogs start citing to us, we have made it big time. well, HBDC! readers, WE’VE MADE IT! over the past week, we’ve been linked to several anti-feminist blogs or pro-manhood blogs. these blogs have said horrible, horrible things about us, the moderators, and about the HBDC! community.
instead of giving these bloggers attention, which is clearly what they are after, we have decided NOT to link to them or post their comments, many that use racist/sexist/derogatory language. we made this decision after talking to other bloggers and activists who have dealt with hate emails and comments. we understand and accept that they have certain points they want to get across, although the way they are approaching this dialogue is by being crass and immature.
in light of all the hate mail/comments we have received, we thought we would showcase a few of them to dissect and to just marinate on.
reporting men who sexually harass on the metro will ruin a man’s life.
ahhh, the ruining of a man’s life. victimize the perpetrator is a classic turnabout. it’s amazing how much sympathy people have for a perpetrator and his/her life. a few false reporting and corrupt/inappropriate police or government conduct has caused this notion that reporting crimes affects a man’s life. and, also we understand the implications of the criminal justice system and communities that have issues with putting another person behind bars. however, we don’t think this commenter was writing this comment from that stand point. nope. we think it was just plain ole victimizing the perp.
it is only 15 seconds of discomfort that should simply be brushed off.
ooh, this one is fun. you SHOULD EXPECT it, is generally the follow-up. ahhh….well, isn’t that what this blog is about? we are trying to push our communities (and on a larger scale, society) to redefine gender cultural norms. this blog also highlights that not only does street harassment last longer than 15 seconds, those 15 seconds can potentially create a real, tangible safety risk or a psychological shift from safe to unsafe. most of us do brush of MOST street harassment. if we didn’t, we would be showcasing so many more experiences. however, the experiences that we do get are the ones we can’t shake off.