Monthly Archives: November 2009

The Serial Smoocher

We found out about this serial smoocher in Loudoun and decided to post since so many people commute into DC from this area. The Sheriff interviewed in this article asked some interesting questions that often get asked on our blog as well.

From the Washington Post:

The first time the smoocher struck it was just after 9 a.m. Nov. 20.

The man approached a woman jogging on Whitewater Drive in Sterling and held out his hand, as if to shake hers, Loudoun authorities said. The man then leaned in and kissed the startled jogger on the cheek.

Then, on Monday, a woman jogging in the same area was approached by a man who held out his hand to her. This time, the man kissed the jogger’s hand.

Loudoun Sheriff’s spokesman Kraig Troxell said authorities suspect the smoocher is the same man. He did not speak, and the women said he seemed a bit disoriented. So far he has not turned violent, but detectives want to find him to make sure he is not a threat. They also are concerned about the man’s safety.

“Is there something physically wrong with this person,?” Troxell said. “Is it a cultural thing? Is this person just doing something that seems inappropriate here [in the United States]? Or is it more sinister?

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Metro Follower

Photo by willgt09 via flickr

A younger male got on the train and decided to sit next to me even though there were plenty of empty seats. I had on my headphones, but he started to talk to me anyway. He kept asking my name so I finally took out my headphones and told him my first name only (in my best I’m not talking to you voice). I thought maybe he would stop talking if I answered his question. Boy was this the wrong move. He kept talking even though I put my headphones back in. Then he picked up my hand and tried to kiss it. I pulled away and thankfully we were approaching a stop, so I asked him to move and left the train car. He started to follow me (even though he only got on at the previous stop). I hung back on the platform and let him walk ahead. Just before the doors closed, I jumped back on the train. This kind of harassment is crazy and I shouldn’t have to put up with it when I just want to get home from work in peace. Who knows what he would have done if he continuted to follow me.

Submitted by M on 11/30/2009

Location: On the Red Line, near CUA

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify.


“I am not your sista”

Cross posted from  Stop Street Harassment Blog:

I’m a Black woman, and I hate the familiarity some Black men who are strangers use toward me.

I had just gotten off the bus to go to work this morning, feeling drowsy and out of it. I see this delivery guy wheeling cartons of liquor into one of the restaurants, and he leans in close to me and says “Ay, girl!” as if we were long-time buddies or something. I am tired and am not in the mood to entertain men I don’t know, so I don’t respond. I stare straight ahead and continue on my destination.

“You can’t speak?” he says. “You too good to speak?” I still don’t bother to respond, and I don’t bother to look back his way either when he continues to attempt to elicit my attention.

He hadn’t bothered to talk to any of the other women of different races who walked by—he only targeted me. I hate how harassers think that being the same race gives them an automatic “in” to bother me. I am not your “sista”—you are a STRANGER to me. I’m just a woman who wants to be left alone.

Location: M St. and Wisconsin, Georgetown

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify

Metro Stalker

Photo by pedrosimoes7 via flickr

Cross-posted from Stop Street Harassment:

Although I am verbally and sometimes physically harassed literally every time I walk to and from the DC metro to my work place, the most recent incident was the most disturbing.

Waiting in the metro station for my train, i heard a male voice saying “Hey sweetie” over and over again while I read a book, and then was approached by a very tall male who proceeded to “praise” me with what he must have considered “compliments” about my appearance. He asked a series of questions, very aggressively, so I felt pressured to comply and answer, though I lied about my name and where i was headed, where I lived, etc., and did not feel comfortable telling him, I’m a lesbian, I have a long-term partner, because those sounds like excuses with the potential to infuriate. He grabbed my hand and wrote his number on it, pressing so hard it cut my skin, and proceeded to ask about me calling him, demanding details about this future call.

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Too Close For Comfort


Photo by Steve & Jemma Copley via flickr


While walking to Dupont with two colleagues – S, a woman, and K, a man – a gaggle of various express buses blocked the path across H Street NW from 14th Street. My colleagues and I, attempting to hold a conversation and navigate the crowded intersection, became caught up in the confusion and I, in particular, was not as aware of my surroundings as I would normally be.

It was at that moment that I felt a vague tickling sensation towards the bottom of my butt – too close to my crotch for comfort. At first, I thought perhaps I had backed up into someone or that one of my friends was playing a joke on me, both poor ideas since I had only been moving forward and the friends I was traveling with were from work and not nearly close enough to me to be so physical. Quickly dismissing those scenarios, I spun around to see a haggard man with few teeth in tattered grey clothing snickering at me. Suddenly, I felt dirty.

Then I lost it. I can’t remember exactly what I said in my rage, but I know I told him to “never fucking touch me again,” that what he did “was harassment,” and called him some variety of “fucker” name on several occasions. The man just made kissy-faces at me and laughed before staggering off to the other side of 14th Street.

“Yeah, go ahead and fucking laugh,” I shouted after him, sounding angry but feeling weak and defeated.

If anything good came out of this whole situation, it was that I discovered how much other people are disturbed by harassment, too. A lady near me asked what happened and responded with “That’s disgusting” when I explained. A man, also standing nearby, muttered something about “belting that guy.” S and K also asked me if I was ok several times on our way to Dupont. Receiving sympathetic responses from bystanders instead of apathy was heartening.

Still, I was violated by a stranger and I feel disgusting. Melodramatic as it sounds, it’s almost enough to make me not want to be touched by anyone for a long time.

Submitted by @sweetpearacer, aka Obie on 11/20/2009

Location: 14th & H St NW

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify.

“He Continued Walking”


Photo by DraconianRain via flickr

Last night I was waiting for my bus when some guy told me “Hey baby, can I be your umbrella?” I was too dumbfounded to give any type of response except to completely ignore him. I wish I had a quicker reaction and smacked him with my actual umbrella.

What bothered me about this is that he continued walking as he made this comment. It was as if he’s conditioned to say whatever crap he can think of to random women and doesn’t care how or if the women react. It’s really annoying.

Submitted by Anonymous on 11/20/2009

Location: M Street and Wisconsin, Georgetown

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Remembering Our Folks

This week was Transgender Awareness Week and today is the 11th Transgender Day of Remembrance to honor all of  those who have been killed due to anti-transgender hate.  One thing we’ve learned from talking to the transgender community is that gender-based public sexual harassment is a major problem in the DC metro that receives little attention and can lead to very violent and serious crimes.

In honor of this week and today, we want to shine a light on the gender-based sexual harassment that our fellow transgender folks  are experiencing on a daily basis in our community.

One of our first stories was about a trans man who was harassed because of his apparent lack of gender identity and conformity and brutally attacked outside of a club by two lesbian women.

Here is another story we received about a trans woman who was harassed on the bus by male and female teens while the bus driver ignored it.

Over the summer two trans women where brutally and one fatally attacked in board daylight in NW DC.

In 2009, 12 transgender individuals were murdered in DC.

According to this report:

The latest, and most reliable, statistics on anti-LGBT violence reveal that it is still a major factor facing the transgender community.

According to a 2008 report from the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP), anti-transgender bias is reported crimes is holding steady, in fact, it has increased 12 percent over the previous year.

The murder rate for LGBT Americans as a whole stands at the highest it has been since 1999. There were 29 related such murders reported last year.

When asked why the rate of violence has continued to surge, Sharon Stapel, NCAVP executive director, complained, “We have set up a culture that explicitly sanctions violence against LGBT people. When we have a federal government that says it’s OK to discriminate against people because of sexual orientation or gender identity, we shouldn’t be surprised when violence occurs because there is no protection against it.”

There are vigils happening all around the world tonight.  In Washington, DC, it is happening at Metropolitan Community Church, 474 Ridge Street NW, at 6:30 PM.  The closest is Mt. Vernon Square/7th St Conv Ctr (Green/Yellow).  Go to for more information.  If you live in NoVA, there is one happening in Fairfax at MCC of Northern Virginia, located at 10383 Democracy Lane, Fairfax, VA 22030.  It starts at 6:30PM.  For more information, contact