Monthly Archives: May 2011

“he started sliding his hand down my hip…”

I was walking down the street with my boyfriend, and someone started walking right behind us (outside of my peripheral vision). He stepped forward and put his arm around my waist; still unable to see him, I figured it might be a friend of mine. A few steps later, I looked over; just as I realized I didn’t recognize the dude and recoiled, he started sliding his hand down my hip. My bf started yelling at him (I was sort of in shock and didn’t know what to do), and the dude walked ahead of us, stumbling drunk, yelling “I’m sorry, I like Muslim girls.” (I’m not Muslim and don’t understand what that meant.) As my bf continued to yell at him, a woman who had been walking behind the whole time ran up to him and told us to lay off, because “Can’t you see he’s drunk?”

Submitted by anonymous

Location: 9th & U St NW

Time of harassment: Night (7:30P-12A)

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Metro Employees that “Holla”

I have a general experience that I would like to share. It is in regards to metro employees. I would like to know why many metro employees are highly unprofessional.

My experience has been that maybe metro male employees will not hesitate to harass, follow, and try to ‘holla’ at female passengers. Why is this okay and what kind of screening does metro do to select their employees? I had a particularly bad experience with one metro employee in particular. This guy basically got upset and screamed at me in front of other metro customers because I wouldn’t give him the type of attention that he wanted. He stated something about how ‘I will be treated how my attitude is’. Can you imagine?

I wrote in a complaint only for metro to tell me that I waited to long to submit my complaint. I think that was just an excuse for them to not have to deal with his behavior because I gave them all the information that they would have needed to identify hi m. It’s wrong because metro riders use their money to ride the train and the last thing needed is insecure male employees using metro as their ‘hunting ground’ to harass women. What kind of foolishness is this? And the sad thing is that metro isn’t even embarassed by the unprofessional people they have working for them! This is just a prime example of how males constantly get away with bad behavior.

Submitted by anonymous

Location: Metro

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“You Look Tired.”

A man walking past me on my way home from work: “You look tired.”

The only thing I’m tired of is men providing unsolicited commentary about what I look like while I’m trying to go about my business.

(I didn’t respond with this, just thought about it the rest of the way home.)

Submitted by anonymous

Location: 1st and K NW

Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

Men at Work

Photo by uzvards via flickr

I was harassed by not one, not two, but THREE men! The worst of all is that these men were all on the clock in some way, shape or form. The first incident was a Metro Access driver who beeped at me. I knew the beep was addressed to me since there was no other traffic on the street at the time.

While I didn’t see his face, I got his license plate: DC plate B 43034. Where do they get these Metro Access drivers from?! They seem to be nothing but trouble. The second was a guy in a green pick up truck. He beeps at me, and reflexively I look (why did I look?) then he waves at me. I was furious. The second damn beep within a 5-10 minute period. I yelled at him to leave me alone and take that shit elsewhere.

I didn’t get the license plate (I saw this was also a DC vehicle), but I got a phone number on a bumper sticker (Electrician? Call 202-669-1170). I looked up the number online and all I got was random reverse phone number sites. Later in the evening, I was harassed by a guy who was either a cop or a security guard. I got the feeling he would do/say something, but I didn’t want to change my direction. I kept walking, and while he was doing something (it looked like he was directing traffic that didn’t exist), he says “Howya doin’, baby?” in that sexual tone. Gross.

I didn’t want to say anything for fear that he’d abuse his authority and arrest me for talking back, so I rolled my eyes and kept on walking. It was such a warm, pleasant day, but dealing with men harassing me (harassing while at work, to boot!) was unpleasant.

Submitted by anonymous

Location:0th & Daniel Street; 10th at Fillmore & Washington Blvd; Fairfax Drive between Monroe and Nelson, Arlington, VA

Time of harassment:Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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“hey baby, what’s up?”

I was walking down Georgia, getting ready to make a right onto Otis, and as I walked in front of Lions Liquors (on Georgia), an older male (who was with another male) started saying “hey baby, what’s up?” and eventually said that I “have nice titties.” I turned around, politely but firmly said “that is inappropriate, please don’t say that,” and turned back around and continued to walk. He called after me and starting threatening me- I didn’t hear much of what he said, but I heard him calling me a bitch in a very threatening tone. I turned onto Otis and didn’t see him again.

Submitted by anonymous

Location: Georgia Ave. N.W. & Otis Pl. N.W.

Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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“f*** off “

I went to see the damage done to the Washington Harbour building done by the flooding. I was leaning over the wooden fence that they placed at the steps going down to the fountain, surveying the damage done to some of my favorite bars, when I heard a very loud voice make some sort of sound.

I don’t really know what it was supposed to be, some sort of high-pitched “uh-huh” expressing approval. I turned around and saw two tall, males in business casual wear (I assume they work there) snickering to themselves about twenty feet away while looking at me. I ignored them and turned back around. Then I hear “smoke!” shouted very loudly in the same voice. I was concerned there was a fire momentarily, but the same two guys were snickering and looking at me again. I was getting annoyed so I started walking away (unfortunately I had to go past these two losers) and when I passed them, the shorter one shouted “ding!” at me (like he hit the jackpot or something). I told him to f*** off but they just laughed again.

I really don’t get how these code words are supposed to work. Obviously I know I’m being harassed when you yell at me.

Submitted by JN

Location: Washington Harbour

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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NOT INTERESTED!

I was excitedly preparing to get some ice cream then visit my partner for a minute at his job then head home from my own workday. I was wearing big, teal “don’t talk to me” headphones, and just a couple doors down from the desired ice cream shop I see a young, 20 something (my age range) guy walking towards me, then stop abruptly. He loudly says “EXCUSE ME” so I can hear him over my jams. I ignore this and walk on. He then comes up behind me and taps me on the shoulder. I wheel around with an incredulous look, pull one side of headphones aside, and ask “yeah?”

“Do you like green? You look like you like green. I like your headphones, and your shirt and earrings…they’re all green.”

I sort of half nod and grimace while walking on, and at this point I’m veering to enter the ice cream shop. He moves to block my path, so I have to say to him, “excuse me, I’m going in here” and quickly jerk the door open. He then follows me inside! I got real pissed real fast, as this seemed very intimidating and cornering to me. The place was empty with just the clerk up at the counter. I whip around and tell him “dude, I’m good. I don’t want to talk to you.”

“You don’t want to talk to me? Why? But I just want to talk to you… I just think you like green and are pretty and I just wanted to talk to you. So really, I can’t talk to you?”

Fucking seriously?

I passionately assert that no, you little twerp, I don’t want to talk to you and leave me the hell alone. He reluctantly sulks out of the ice cream shop and I’m left to shakily order my ice cream, which totally doesn’t taste as good as I imagined it would now.

The ironic part is that all this happened almost exactly outside my partner’s bookstore front, where he was blissfully, unknowingly awaiting my arrival. But I must say, in my “defense” of why I didn’t want to talk to this jerk I specifically did not say “because I have a boyfriend” as my reason because even if I was single, and was remotely attracted to this honestly not bad looking dude, this ass ignored all polite, civil conversation and approach rules. My HUGE headphones, my body language, the steely ice cream driven look of determination on my face…all these things signaled NOT INTERESTED to anyone curious parties.

Submitted by Sandy

Location: Adams Morgan, 18th street

Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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