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Upcoming Self Defense Classes

Check out these upcoming classes with Defend Yourself!

DEFEND YOURSELF from A to Z 

In this eight-week class, you’ll learn how to deal almost everything, from harassment and other verbal situations that make you uncomfortable all the way to physical attacks. You’ll learn to defend yourself from the ground (not just standing up); you’ll practice almost-infinite varieties of verbal and physical defense scenarios so that the skills are part of your “muscle memory” and you can rely on them when there’s no time to think.

Call, email, or check the web site if you want details.

  • Mondays, Feb. 6 to March 26, 7-8:30 pm
  • For women and teen girls age 16+
  • 14th St. and Florida Ave., NW, DC (near U St./Cardozo on the Green Line)
  • Discount for registering before Jan. 8

Learn self-defense basics in one afternoon

If all you’re looking for are some quick skills, sign up for “Introduction to self defense”: Saturday, Jan. 28, 1 pm at St. Luke’s Lutheran Church in Derwood (Rockville), Md. For details go here.

Argh.

I was going for a jog after work through Logan Circle, up 14th Street, down Florida Ave., and through LeDroit Park and Bloomingdale. On multiple occasions, older men (probably 40+) either made comments as I passed them (one I heard saying “you don’t need to run to look like that”), leered at me, or jokingly ran along.

Finally, I passed a gentleman and I turned behind to see him staring at me and saying a comment about my butt that I couldn’t clearly hear. Incredibly frustrated after this experience, I angrily told him “do not say a word to me,” and kept on running.

It was probably not the best response that I could have given but I was really quite demoralized and upset by the end of the run. Whether they intended to or not, I was feeling self-conscious about running in spandex by the end of my jog, or that my running served no purpose besides their consumption. Argh.

Submitted by ME

Location: LeDroit Park/Bloomingdale (two separate areas)

Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify.

“The Ten Shadiest Things Strangers Have Ever Said to Me”

After a street harassment experience in DC, Alix compiled a list of the 10 creepiest things strangers have said to her. Check out her post on the Importance of Being Alix.  

Thanks for sharing, Alix!

Since switching jobs, I started walking to work. I now spend an 35 minutes on foot each way, what would be a pleasant walk if it didn’t also provide an easy 70 minutes each day to be harassed by random men on the street. Yesterday, I was honked at, got catcalled, and had a man ask me, “Haven’t I seen you in a magazine?” I did not stop to hear which publication to which he was referring, but I’m willing to wager it wasn’t the Wellesley Alumnae magazine.

Sadly, I’m very used to this behavior. I’m not sure why I am such a magnet for shady, shady dudes, but I am. It has some advantages–for instance, I sometimes get free food at restaurants, although I am usually just extremely confused about that (“But I haven’t given you my money yet!”)–but mostly, it’s just super creepy and unwelcome. I guess it makes for good stories? For your entertainment, I’ve assembled a list of the ten creepiest things strange men have ever said to me:


10. Champ de Mars, Paris, France – 2008
Anyone want to learn how to French Kiss? Or Vodka Kiss?”

I have to give him props–upon hearing this line, I was amazed that I’d never heard it before (the French kiss part. Not the vodka kiss part. That doesn’t even make sense.). But he was still a miscreant French youth, so he would have been creepy no matter what came out.

9. Dharamsala, India – 2007
“I’m going to teach you Punjabi. Thohade aakha baut Suniya ne. That means ‘Your eyes are looking amazing.'”

This would have been a lot less creepy had his girlfriend not been sitting directly next to him at the time. This was also the same day that I accidentally spent with a punjabi pop star, who I’m sure would have also had some creepy shit to say, had his command of the English language allowed it. Instead, he just kept shouting things like “CUTE BABY!” every few minutes.

8. Library of Congress, Washington, DC – September 2011
“You seem like a nice girl, Emma. Are you Jewish?”

7. The Red Line to Shady Grove, Washington, DC – 2010
“Can I like, try something with your hair?”

Read the full post here.

How NOT to Pick Someone Up

Need a bit of comic relief this Thursday? Watch our fav local comedian Lucé Tomlin-Brenner take on NYC. We love that she uses comedy to raise awareness about street harassment.

We promise she will have you doubling over in laughter within the first 30 seconds.

Even In Front of My Children

I was taking my children to lunch when an older man on a mobility scooter (yeah) rode along side us, remarking about my looks.

I told him how inappropriate it was for him to say those things, particularly in front of my children and luckily, he got the point and rolled away.

My 8 year old son asked me if he said those things because he didn’t know I was married. I told him it didn’t matter, as it was disrespectful and rude (and inappropriate). My son then said, “I don’t understand. Even if you weren’t married, why would you want to marry him?”

EXACTLY

Submitted by SPM

Location: 8th and Pennsylvania Ave, SE

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify.

Flipping the Bird

Speedwalking in a nice dress to my ushering gig at a downtown theater this afternoon, I encountered a carful of grinning guys, who courteously slowed down in the middle of the intersection to greet me with some semi-intelligible but almost certainly charming commentary on my body and movements. Accordingly, I flipped them off and went on my way.

Afterward, the guys almost certainly forgot immediately. I, on the other hand, spent the rest of the walk mulling over the incident, wondering: “Was I too harsh in flipping them off? Maybe they were saying something useful and I was a total jerk. I should check my purse for items that might have been falling out, and see if my dress had ridden up (no on both accounts). On the other hand, I’m pretty sure I heard the word ‘ass’ once if not multiple times . . .”

What’s wrong with this picture? While flipping the bird isn’t perhaps the most constructive response, it was an expedient way to express my displeasure about the uninvited aggression, which is essentially what street harassment is whether its practitioners are aware of that or not. I just hate that I spent so much time afterward wondering what/if I had done something wrong, when I was really not the one who needed to be doing the reflecting.

Location: Thomas circle (Mass & 14th NW)

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

Submitted by Anonymous

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify.

Hey Sweetheart

I was crossing the street when a man leaned out the window to yell at me. “hey sweetheart. Hi sweetheart.” when I didn’t respond, he yelled “just say hi. Just look at me “. When I still didnt he screamed “fuck you” and drive off, but not before I heard him call me a bitch for not acknowledging him.

Location: 10th and Florida NE

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault you would like to submit? Just click here and fill out the online submission form. All submissions are posted anonymously unless you specify.