Tag Archives: Catcalling

Even In Front of My Children

I was taking my children to lunch when an older man on a mobility scooter (yeah) rode along side us, remarking about my looks.

I told him how inappropriate it was for him to say those things, particularly in front of my children and luckily, he got the point and rolled away.

My 8 year old son asked me if he said those things because he didn’t know I was married. I told him it didn’t matter, as it was disrespectful and rude (and inappropriate). My son then said, “I don’t understand. Even if you weren’t married, why would you want to marry him?”

EXACTLY

Submitted by SPM

Location: 8th and Pennsylvania Ave, SE

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“huh, I’m sorry what did you say? “

I live right up the street, where the harassment occurred in front a pawn shop. I had headphones in at the time, but this man was walking awkwardly close to me and said ” nice legs” I didn’t know what he had said, so I took out one ear bud and said to him, “huh, I’m sorry what did you say? “… so he repeated it and said again, ” you have some nice legs”. It wasn’t weird to me because I usually get harassed in the street. Plus, I’m petite and 4’11 so.. people think I’m younger than I actually am.

Submitted by Tea

Location: Eastover Shopping Center

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“Girl, I’ll dog you like Tiger Woods!”

Early this summer, I was walking back to my neighborhood with a set of golf clubs; I had picked them up after having them repaired. A delivery man carrying a box yelled to me in a lusty way as I walked past him, “Girl, I’ll dog you like Tiger Woods!” I took this to be an aggressive reference to non-consensual anal sex.

Submitted by B on 8/16/2011

Location: 19th and Q Streets

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“What is under the hood.”

I was walking down Kenyon Street just passed the intersection at Georgia Avenue on the way to a friends going away party when an older man (my guess would be somewhere around 60 years old) sitting on a short retaining wall commented on my “beautiful” skirt as I was walking toward him. Between his apparent age and the fact that I was wearing a brightly colored, floral-printed skirt I at first took it as a compliment and said, “Thank You,” as I continued walking. He proceeded to say that “It doesn’t matter what’s on the outside but what is under the hood…” followed by some other comments as I walked out of earshot from him.

I immediately regretted walking to the friend’s house instead of driving and as soon as I arrived shared my disgust with my best friend – who said that she had been street harassed the previous night 3 times!

Submitted by anonymous on 8/14/2011

Location: Kenyon St and Georgia Ave NW

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“Damn, girl, I’d like to see you in nothing BUT those heels.”

I was walking from my car to the mall for an interview, so obviously I’m dressed nicely with heels and appropriate clothing. As I’m walking this car comes up behind me and I hear this man say, “Damn, girl, I’d like to see you in nothing BUT those heels.” I ignored him and kept walking. The car sped up to me and again I heard, “I don’t think you heard me, I want you in nothing BUT those heels, girl.” I continued to ignore him and walked into the mall. It was an inward struggle for me not to turn around and flip him off, but I didn’t know how he would react to that. If he would make another rude comment, if he would get angry and come after me. There’s so many ways that guys can react, so I felt that I could only safely ignore him.

Submitted by CJ on 8/14/2011

Location: Columbia Mall

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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Too many times.

Photo by Steve Snodgrass via flickr

I’ve been reading all of these stories, and I’ve never really felt more compelled to share my own than right now. I’m a teenage girl, and while I’ve had my share of harassment on the streets, in stores, and at school, I’ve always had a special kind of harassment at my workplace. I work at a discount theater in Northern Virginia, and it seems that every time I come in for work, nearly every male patron chooses to hit on me, ask me on a date, flirt with me, or try to touch me. They leer over the counter and try to stare down my top. More often than not, these are grown men with their wives and children sitting in the theater while they go get snacks from me. Do you know how many times I’ve heard “You look tired.”, “You have beautiful eyes”, “You should be a model.”, “What’s your name?” “Tight ass.”, “Great tits.” or my personal ‘favorite’ “You look sexy in that outfit.”? Too many. And for the record, I wear mom jeans and an oversized plaid shirt to work, along with the smock we are forced to wear. Nothing sexy about it.

And the worst thing is, when I try to bring it up among my female co workers, they just brush it off. They don’t care. And my male co-workers, including my forty five year old manager try to hit on my and rub up on me in the same way!

I’m frightened to come into work, and I don’t know what to say to these people without it getting reported to my manager or boss. I want to quit, but I need the money to save for college, plus my dad helped me get the job and I don’t want to disappoint him.

But I’m sick and tired of being a sex object at work.

Submitted by Brietta

Location: At work, VA

Time of Harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“honey”

A man on a bicycle rode by and told me “I should put that on his mustache, honey”. The “honey”, I guess, was to make the previous comment less crude.

Submitted by anonymous on 8/12/2011

Location: I St NW and 15th

Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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