Tag Archives: street harassment

Even In Front of My Children

I was taking my children to lunch when an older man on a mobility scooter (yeah) rode along side us, remarking about my looks.

I told him how inappropriate it was for him to say those things, particularly in front of my children and luckily, he got the point and rolled away.

My 8 year old son asked me if he said those things because he didn’t know I was married. I told him it didn’t matter, as it was disrespectful and rude (and inappropriate). My son then said, “I don’t understand. Even if you weren’t married, why would you want to marry him?”

EXACTLY

Submitted by SPM

Location: 8th and Pennsylvania Ave, SE

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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Too Many Occurrences

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I was walking home from work at 16th and 1 block below P Street, NW, when two guys approached me and told me I have a fat ass. I said no thank you and kept walking, at which point they started following me. Fortunately, a bus pulled up and I was able to cross the street and catch it in time. It was very unnerving.

I also had an experience a couple weeks ago in front of the Target in Columbia Heights were a man asking for donations for Planned Parenthood, of all places, approached me to ask for money and then kept on about how he had watched me walk up the street and when I came out of Target wanted to talk to me. Ew.

Submitted by Elizabeth
Location: 16th and P St. NW
Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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Do I need to grow thicker skin?

I was on my way home from Thanksgiving in New York with my family. My train got into Union Station a little late, so I decided to take a cab so that I could get home quickly without having to drag my luggage through the Metro. After waiting in the taxi line for 10 minutes or so, I get in a cab. He seemed a little irritated that I kept my suitcase with me in the back seat (instead of putting it in the trunk so that he could get an additional fee), but it didn’t seem like a big deal.

After we get a block or two away from the station, we pass a young college-student-type guy on the street, dragging a big duffel bag and trying to hail a cab. The driver of my cab wants to pick this guy up too, and I say no. It’s against the rules for a cab driver to pick up additional passengers like that! So the cab driver immediately starts cursing at me and kicks me out of the cab.

At this point, I’m angry, so I flip him off and tell him to fuck off. At which point he starts saying, “You want to fuck me? Yeah, girl, you should come right over here and fuck me.” Repeatedly. Clearly, he’s more interested in antagonizing me than in picking up another fare, since the college kid hailed another cab so that I could get away. Unfortunately, I was too rattled to get the cab driver’s information or remember the name of the cab company.

I called my mom afterward, and she told me that I shouldn’t have antagonized him, and that I need to grow a thicker skin. Not exactly helpful.

Submitted by KBF

Location: Massachusetts Ave & North Capitol

Time of harassment:  Night (7:30P-12A)

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“Smile for me!”

I was walking to the metro, on my way to my job as a nanny, having an absolutely terrible day when I passed a group of guys who hang out on the block. One of them said “Good afternoon.” I ignored him, cranky and wrapped up in my head. He and some of his friends kept going. “Good afternoon! Hey! Good afternoon! Hey, baby girl, smile for me?” I completely snapped and yelled back “Fuck you! It’s a shitty day! I don’t have to smile. You don’t have the right to tell me what to do!” They started laughing and made fun of me until I was around the corner. I’m worried now that in the future if they recognize me the harassment will escalate.

Submitted by Izzi

Location: 7th and M Sts. NW

Time of harassment:  Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“Hey Baby!”

I was walking my dog down R St. and was in the middle of the block b/w 13th and 14th when I thought I had heard a hissing sound seemingly out of the blue. As I turned my head a man on his bike smiled as he realized he got my attention, laughed and then said “Hey Baby.” Still staring at him b/c I was still processing the harassment, his smile turned to a growl as he continued to pass me by with a an angry “Fuck you bitch!” at my lack of response. When that happened I immediately looked around to see if anyone else was close by and that’s when I felt threatened as I did not see anyone on the block. But he continued to bike on as I continued to walk my dog, and think, that as a person who is currently struggling to deal with PTSD that I do not feel safe in my own neighborhood.

Submitted by VLL

Location: 13th and R Sts, NW

Time of harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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An Open Letter….

An open letter to those dozen people walking by 18th and california nw sunday at 3:10pm,

Go to hell.

A woman yells “I need a cop, I need a cop” and you do nothing. You don’t even approach to see if my wife and i are being physically threatened by that man. He was following us, hissing in vulgar terms about us going to hell and that men eat pussy better. We were afraid and you did nothing. I even tried to protect your son from him, I told the man there was a child across the street and to watch his language.

I hope we didn’t disturb your lovely afternoon.

Make no mistake, there is a campaign of terror, of threats of violence against women and lgbt citizens, across this city. I shouldn’t be afraid to leave my neighborhood, but I am. You saw something and said nothing, and it hurt me more than that vile man. you’ve reminded me that, despite your undoubted liberal leanings and token gay friends, my family and I are alone on these streets and we shouldn’t count on you to stick your neck out.

Once we have kids of our own, we’ll have to teach them that you people are easily scared. A kid need an adult but you might not help. We’ll tell them to scream for help anyway because it can scare the bad guy off. Our kids will grow up tough but alive and prepared for just how selfish and scared you really are of how hard our lives are. You may find it unpleasant to believe these things happen in our “one city”, but it goes and you should care.

So, again, on behalf of myself, my wife and our future children, go to hell.

And the next time I see you getting hassled, I’ll still come over and even call a cop. I couldn’t live with myself otherwise.

Submitted by Cathy

Location: 18th and California, NW

Time of harassment:  Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“Good morning, luscious!”

I was late to meet up for coffee with my friends and when I got close to the destination, two men hanging out outside a few doors down said, “Good morning, luscious.”

1. It was after 6 in the evening and dark out—“good morning”?!
2. I was running late and not in the mood to be talked to like a piece of meat.

I said “I’m not your fucking luscious!” and it shut them up. The last thing I want or need when I’ve got other things on my mind is lame ass men treating me like an object.

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: 17th and L Sts. NW

Time of harassment: Night (3:30P-7:30P)

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